Today’s blog post is written by one of the newest interns on the SOS Leadership team, Marisa Hernandez. Marisa is a student at St. Edward’s University.
When people ask me how my work load is this semester, I get the same reaction of shock. I tell them I’m taking 15 hours of classes, working at a law office, planning my wedding, and working as an intern; they respond with “You have too much on your plate and I don’t know how you are going to be able to handle it.” Every time I hear that reaction, it secretly gives me more confidence and motivation to keep going.
I wasn’t always this ambitious and never in my life did I believe my mind was capable of the things I endure now.
When I graduated High School in 2007 I thought I had everything figured out. I would go to Austin Community College, obtain my two year nursing degree and I would be done with school; the truth is, you can’t finish something your heart isn’t in. It took me almost three years to discover what I really wanted to do, and although I have an amazing family, fiancée, and of course my faith in God there for guidance and support, the majority of what I made happen was because of the faith I had in myself.
During the three years it took me to discover what I really wanted, I obtained the abilities and confidence that I believe make me a good leader. The path to searching for what I really wanted allowed me to recognize my faults which in turn led to setting reasonable goals. Slowly after reaching those goals, I started to gain the confidence to really look at myself and what I was naturally good at, which was being a good listener, being able to relate to people, and having an outgoing personality. I then began to search for career fields that allowed me to be who I was without having to alter myself in any way, but more so, enhance the abilities I already had. This led to the communication field, and put my love for writing, expressing my opinion, and social media in the mix and a perfect match was made!
After realizing my educational goals I allowed myself to focus on what really meant the most to me, and that is having a family of my own someday, being a great wife, and having a career that allowed me to make a difference in the lives of others. I think everyone wants to do that to some extent in their careers, but for me specifically, I want to help other young men and women who are having difficulties reaching their goals and finding their life’s passion. Just as I had my family, fiancée, and God for support, I want to be that support for them to realize the strength to lead themselves.
I don’t believe leadership has anything to do with the amount of wealth or popularity that a person obtains, but by the amount their philosophies and values influence others to help themselves. I truly believe I went through all the difficult obstacles in my life so I could share what I learned with others in order to help them, to lead them to finding their true purpose.
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“I don’t believe leadership has anything to do with the amount of wealth or popularity that a person obtains, but by the amount their philosophies and values influence others to help themselves.” Thank you Shane for this very honest, very personal leadership post! It was very inspiring for me to read because at the moment I have two part-time jobs as well as a brand new business I am trying to get up and running! Everyone is always telling me I have too much on my plate and that is a motivation for me too. With this new business has come A LOT of research to make sure I am doing things as effectively and as accurately as possibly. This post really reminded me of a book I just read by author Bill Sims Jr., “Green Beans and Ice Cream” (http://greenbeanleadership.com/). The author clearly explains the best and the worst ways to motivate people, how to use positive reinforcement correctly *in all facets of life*, and most importantly how a behavior change can turn around your whole business. It’s unlike other management books in that it reads like a conversation and the author backs up these practices with anecdotes, examples, stories and official research. That’s why I’ve enjoyed reading your post…it sounds human! While the book focuses on improving work performances, its lessons can also be used in daily life, in families, and in other personal relationships. It’s helped me a lot and I’m sure you’ll enjoy it