Leaders Ask for Help

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a button we could push and the help we needed would just appear? It would save us from the often challenging task of asking for help.

I don’t know about you, but asking for help has never been one of my favorite activities. Sometimes, even when I desperately need a helping hand, I trudge along, trying to do it all, and (in my worst moments) resenting the fact that no one is helping me! Can you relate?

There are scores of reasons why we don’t ask for help:

  • Pride
  • Fear 
  • Insecurity
  • Not wanting to give up control
  • Feeling guilty because we know the people in our lives are busy too
Australian blogger, Emma Grey, does a nice job of outlining 7 Reasons People Don’t Ask for Help. What excuses do you make about why you don’t ask for help?
I’ve justified not asking for help using all of these reasons at some point. Most often, I tell myself that if people wanted to help, they’d offer. I realize how short-sighted this is because the people in my life can’t read my mind. They often WANT to help, but don’t know how. 
I can’t tell you how many times someone has offered to “help in anyway they can,” and I’ve not taken them up on the offer, even when I felt like I was drowning.
My point with all of this is to share what I know to be true, but don’t always put into action:
  • I don’t have all the answers, but together we might be able to solve the problem at hand
  • I can’t do it all, but I can do this while you help me with that
  • I believe in you and know that we can and will make a great team.
I’m working to change the way I think about asking for help. Asking for help is a sign of my strength as a leader, not my weakness. 
When I ask for help, I am at my best. I am strong, empowered, and grateful. Very grateful.
Do you need help today? Take the leap…and ask!

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